Towards Independence

Sometime last year, we designated the downstairs washroom (no tub, just toilet and sink) as toilet-training grounds. I've made some serious attempts at taking control of the situation, however neither of the boys were ready to take that leap and overcome some major anxieties, some of which I hadn't even thought to factor in to my plans. Again, and again, I am up against tears and screams of anxiety.

Maybe 9 months ago, I posted these laminated pages of a social story (created by the ABA consultant) along with some arranged images for reminders to the steps required to complete the task. 

behind the sink, wall-e needs to wash his hands. this is great regardless of the reason for the washroom visit!

 everything from sitting to pulling up pants. we have a small washroom, and its easy to read from anywhere.

of course, the door to the washroom reminds them before entering

Positive reinforcement for any form of independence, respecting privacy and desire for independence, sorting out sensory preferences, anxiety triggers, and personal quirks.. It has been a 3 year process, for 'D', a 2-year process for 'A'. However, they will have achieved it themselves, without constant trips to the toilet, on their terms, so that they can be more self-aware and less confined to a schedule.

Currently this is more for 'D', who's main obstacle is health issues. 'A' will be following a similar path, but will suit his busy lifestyle.